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    The Complex Truth About Female Desire

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    Jackson and Miles explore groundbreaking research revealing the contradictions in women's sexuality - from the disconnect between physical arousal and conscious desire to the paradox of wanting to be desired without being objectified.

    The Complex Truth About Female Desire

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    The most radical thing you can do is define your own relationship with your sexuality and appearance. In a world that profits from women's insecurity and self-doubt, claiming your authentic desire is a radical act.

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    Part of a Learning Plan

    Study wild women and their sexual desires

    Study wild women and their sexual desires

    LEARNING PLAN

    Study wild women and their sexual desires

    2 h 38 m•4 Episodes
    Desire, History, Body & Pleasure explored

    Desire, History, Body & Pleasure explored

    LEARNING PLAN

    Desire, History, Body & Pleasure explored

    3 h 30 m•4 Episodes
    Explore Desire, Gender, Identity & Pleasure

    Explore Desire, Gender, Identity & Pleasure

    LEARNING PLAN

    Explore Desire, Gender, Identity & Pleasure

    3 h 39 m•4 Episodes
    Body, Pleasure, Desire & Sexual Health

    Body, Pleasure, Desire & Sexual Health

    LEARNING PLAN

    Body, Pleasure, Desire & Sexual Health

    2 h 53 m•4 Episodes
    Body, Pleasure, Desire, Gender & Identity

    Body, Pleasure, Desire, Gender & Identity

    LEARNING PLAN

    Body, Pleasure, Desire, Gender & Identity

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    Sex, Health, Desire & Pleasure

    Sex, Health, Desire & Pleasure

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    Sex, Health, Desire & Pleasure

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    Sex, Health, Desire & Pleasure

    Sex, Health, Desire & Pleasure

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    Opening & Setting the Stage

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    The Revolutionary Science of Female Desire

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    The Narcissistic Secret: Being Desired vs. Desiring

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    The Paradox of Submission Fantasies

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    The Cultural Construction of Beauty and Desire

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    The Context That Changes Everything

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    The Evaluative Process: Who Gets What Kind of Attention

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    Reclaiming Sexuality in a Complex World

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    Practical Applications & Listener Takeaways

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    Wrapping Up: The Complex Truth About Desire

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