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    Exploring the magnetic tension between seemingly opposite cultural identities: the chill, skateboarding dudebro and the aesthetic-driven indie girl. Why do these contrasting worlds constantly repel yet irresistibly attract?

    Dudebros & Dream Girls

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    Both identities are performing a kind of rebellion against the mainstream, just in completely different languages. They are actually mirror images of each other in ways neither would probably want to admit.

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