Building magnetism when you're a high achiever
Stop trying to 'win' at connection. Learn how shifting from doing to being creates a magnetic presence that makes you truly unforgettable.
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The 'it' factor isn't something you do; it’s something you radiate when you finally stop trying to 'win' and start trying to 'connect.' It’s the shift from being a competitor to being a magnet.
This audio lesson was created by a BeFreed community member
Help with actionable steps to be the one and have that it factor . I am a 49 year old female who is in competition with another woman for a man’s attention. I am going for my second degree black belt in Taekwondo, mountain climbing training, raising a trans child , I have been teaching for 27 years and have two master’s degrees. I’m a high achieving woman. I need help with sensuality, playfulness, presence, charm , warmth, charisma, it factor. I want him to invest in me and be unforgettable
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"Doing" mode is characterized by masculine energy, which focuses on achieving, managing, organizing, and proving one's worth through accomplishments like degrees or career success. In contrast, "being" mode is rooted in feminine energy and intrinsic worth. It is about presence, receptivity, and radiance rather than active output. When a person stays strictly in "doing" mode within a relationship, they often end up controlling the dynamic, which can inadvertently push a partner into a passive or "lazy" role to balance the scales.
Slowing down is a physical way to shift from the mind into the body. High achievers often operate at a fast, efficient pace that can feel clinical or intimidating, like a board meeting or a classroom. By deliberately slowing down speech, movements, and gestures, a person signals emotional safety and sensuality. This change in tempo, such as using "pregnant pauses" in conversation or holding eye contact for four seconds, creates a "warmth-first" approach that makes others feel seen and relaxed rather than pressured.
The "eye triangle" is a subtle non-verbal communication technique used to build romantic intrigue. It involves shifting your gaze from one of the other person's eyes to the other, and then down toward their mouth before returning to the eyes. This movement creates a "bedroom eyes" effect that feels playful and seductive without being overly aggressive. When combined with the "eyebrow flash"—a quick, conscious lift of the brows upon seeing someone—it signals genuine interest and warmth.
Receiving is described as an active skill rather than a passive state. For someone used to being self-sufficient, it involves making the conscious choice to let others contribute to their life. This can be practiced by fully accepting a compliment with a simple "thank you" instead of deflecting it, or by allowing a partner to provide help, such as opening a door or carrying bags. By receiving, a person creates the necessary space for their partner to step up and feel needed, which fosters a deeper emotional connection.
Being a "moving target" means maintaining a rich, independent life that is not centered solely on a romantic interest. It is the opposite of "chasing" or waiting by the phone. A person becomes a moving target by staying committed to their own passions, career, and hobbies, which signals high self-worth and independence. This prevents the "self-blame trap" if a connection doesn't work out, as the individual views the situation as a matter of compatibility rather than a reflection of their value.
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