Alexander and Ninette: A Match Made in Manitoba
Explore the romantic potential of Alexander and Ninette as we analyze their compatibility through historical parallels, personality paradoxes, and the unique charm of their Canadian connection.
Best quote from Alexander and Ninette: A Match Made in Manitoba
A perfect fit isn't something you find—it’s something you orchestrate, one promissory note at a time.
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Frequently Asked Questions
The pairing is famously depicted in Charles Lecocq’s 1896 French opera Ninette. In this version of the story, the "Alexander" figure is a dashing, handsome version of Cyrano de Bergerac (played by actor Alexandre Piccaluga), and "Ninette" represents the historical figure Ninon de Lenclos. The script describes them as a seventeenth-century power couple who exchanged "promissory notes" of fidelity, blending high-stakes romance with a business-like mutual respect for their romantic "deal."
When viewed through the lens of Enneagram Type Nine (the Peacemaker), an Alexander and Ninette pairing is characterized by extreme stability, gentleness, and a domestic, protective nature. While this creates a very comfortable and non-judgmental environment, it carries the risk of a "mutual non-aggression pact." In this state, both partners may avoid conflict so intensely that they stop communicating their true needs, leading to a "deadening of vitality" where they relate to idealized versions of each other rather than reality.
Alexander Pushkin, the legendary Russian poet, and his wife Natalia (often called Tasha or "Ninette") were a "brilliant" match of wit and radiant beauty. However, their relationship was undone by external social pressures and Pushkin’s internal sense of "dashing" honor. When a Frenchman named Dantes obsessively courted Natalia, Pushkin felt compelled to defend his honor through dueling. This ultimately led to his fatal wounding in 1837, illustrating how a "perfect fit" can be destroyed by outside interference and an inability to control protective passions.
Catherine the Great and Grigory Potemkin represented the "Alexander and Ninette" dynamic at a political maximum. They were co-rulers who functioned as a "state" rather than just a couple. Their "fit" was unique because they recognized they could not satisfy each other emotionally on a daily basis, so they transitioned into a strategic alliance. They remained best friends and political conspirators, even helping each other find new lovers, while successfully expanding the Russian Empire together through their combined genius.
To ensure a successful "fit," the script suggests five main strategies: embrace complementary energies (being the "oil" to the other's "gas"), avoid the stalemate of silence by practicing verbal honesty, protect your private "safe haven" from outside rumors, find a shared mission or goal to work toward together, and don't be afraid of unique solutions that don't look like conventional relationships. Above all, partners should respect the "deal" they made and choose to clear obstacles for one another daily.
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