Alan Watts and the Illusion of the Separate Self
Feeling disconnected from the world? Explore Alan Watts’s Zen-inspired wisdom to stop chasing security and start living as part of the whole ocean.
Best quote from Alan Watts and the Illusion of the Separate Self
The point of a symphony isn't to get to the final note; the point of music is the music itself while it’s playing. In the same way, the point of dancing isn't to reach a certain spot on the floor; it’s to dance.
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Alan Watts - British American author and lecturer
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Watts used this term to describe the common but false sensation that a person is a separate "driver" located inside their body, looking out at a world that is not them. He argued that this sense of isolation is a social hallucination rather than a biological fact. Instead of being a stranger "coming into" the world, Watts suggested we "come out" of the universe like an apple grows from a tree, meaning we are a continuous function of the total energy of the cosmos.
Wu Wei is often misunderstood as being passive or lazy, but Watts described it as "not forcing" or the "Watercourse Way." It is the art of acting with such high intelligence and sensitivity that you move with the flow of events rather than against them, much like a sailor works with the wind. In daily life, this means stopping the strained effort of the ego to "make" things happen and instead aligning oneself with the natural rhythm of the present moment.
In his work "The Wisdom of Insecurity," Watts explained that the desperate search for permanence in an impermanent world actually creates chronic anxiety. He compared life to water, noting that the harder you grab it, the faster it slips away. By accepting that there is no absolute security and that everything is in a state of constant change, a person can stop worrying about the future and finally begin to appreciate the reality of the present.
Drawing from Vedantic tradition, Watts suggested that the universe is like a divine being playing a game with itself. Imagine being God and able to dream any dream; eventually, you would dream a dream where you forgot you were God so that you could experience the surprise and drama of being a limited human being. According to Watts, we are the universe pretending to be separate individuals for the sake of "lila," or divine play, and waking up is simply realizing who we really were all along.
Watts criticized the Western habit of treating life as a journey toward a destination, such as a promotion or a future milestone. He argued that life is more like music or dancing, where the point is not to reach the end of the song or a specific spot on the floor, but to engage in the activity while it is happening. By treating life as a "playful" dance rather than a problem to be solved, we can find fulfillment in the "here and now" rather than constantly living for the future.
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